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@@ -47,7 +47,7 @@ specific event formats that create genuine connection, tested by real communitie
- **seating?** for 8+ people, assigned-ish seating prevents friend-clusters from forming. just put name cards out.
- **conversation structure?** one prompt for the whole table works for 6-8 people. for 10+, you need a more structured round or the table fragments into side conversations.
-**the nick gray overlay:** apply the 2-hour cocktail party principles to dinner — name tags, structured icebreaker at the start, a hard end time.
+**the nick gray overlay:** apply the 2-hour cocktail party principles to dinner — name tags, structured [[icebreakers|icebreaker]] at the start, a hard end time.
**failure modes:** too many people (kills intimacy), no conversation structure (defaults to weather/work chat), same people every time (becomes a friend group, not a community).
@@ -103,6 +103,8 @@ specific event formats that create genuine connection, tested by real communitie
## the unconference
+this format also works for [[online-community|virtual gatherings]] with breakout rooms replacing physical spaces.
+
**goal:** participant-driven discussion, emergent topics, distributed leadership
**group size:** 20-100
**duration:** half day or full day
@@ -165,7 +167,7 @@ specific event formats that create genuine connection, tested by real communitie
- natural end point when the walk ends
- fresh air and nature are genuinely good for conversation quality
-**when to use:** reconnecting with someone after a long gap, having a difficult conversation, getting to know someone new without the pressure of a "meeting," relationship repair.
+**when to use:** reconnecting with someone after a long gap, having a difficult conversation, getting to know someone new without the pressure of a "meeting," [[relationship-maintenance|relationship repair]].
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1. **have a hard end time.** people commit more easily when they know when it ends. "7-9pm" is better than "7pm onwards."
2. **feed people.** food is social lubricant. it doesn't need to be fancy — chips and salsa work.
3. **name tags at 15+ people.** nobody remembers 15 names. don't make them pretend.
-4. **someone has to be the host.** not the "chill host" who lets things happen — an active host who starts the icebreaker, redirects conversation, makes introductions. priya parker's rule: a gathering without a host is just people in a room.
-5. **create a reason to return.** "same time next week" is the most powerful sentence in community building.
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+4. **someone has to be the host.** not the "chill host" who lets things happen — an active host who starts the icebreaker, redirects conversation, makes [[introductions]]. priya parker's rule (from [[books-resources|The Art of Gathering]]): a gathering without a host is just people in a room.
+5. **create a reason to return.** "same time next week" is the most powerful sentence in [[building-community|community building]].
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