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the startup founders modeled this constantly. hardware broke? "now we know what not to do." bad test result? "we learned something." intern struggling? "making mistakes and growing."
-at first this felt like cope. then i realized it was a genuine cognitive skill. the person who frames failure as learning literally learns more from failure. the person who frames it as evidence of inadequacy literally becomes more inadequate.
+at first this felt like cope. then i realized it was a genuine cognitive skill.
## branding yourself
@@ -43,7 +43,7 @@ the skill is deploying good framing for yourself while maintaining skepticism ab
from navigating a difficult team situation: "many instincts for things to say (to be logical) but tried empathy & validation and that seemed to work well." the strategy:
1. state my needs
-2. frame it as "we are working together"
+2. frame it as "we are working together"
3. expand the state of possible outcomes
4. find framings that aren't hurtful — "hurtful framings exist but they are never the only framing"
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## framing for motivation
-"turn 'have to' into 'get to': life is beautiful." the simplest and most powerful reframe. i don't have to go to class; i get to learn. i don't have to exercise; i get to build a body that works.
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more nuanced version from the startup CEO: "greatest thing that can happen to someone is alignment of pleasure and goals. spend more time trying to align them." the ultimate framing challenge isn't making bad things seem good — it's restructuring your actual values so that what you want to do and what you should do converge.
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